How You Save a Marriage Alone

"Can I save my marriage alone - even when my partner doesn't want to?" This is a question I can hear so often. The answer will surprise you.

Yes, indeed it is possible!

Think of when you met your partner for the very first time. Maybe you were the only one interested. Did you ask yourself: "Can I get this wonderful person to like me or fall in love with me - even when when he/she is not interested?"

Of course you can. In every releationship the initiative usually come from one side alone. The same can be true for saving an existing relationship.

You even have an advantage: You have many common memories you can use as a "reminder" of the wonderful times you have spent together.

Sometimes some strong and true initiative is the only thing your partner wants to see coming from you. This alone sometimes can save a relationship.

Make it clear that you want it - without a doubt. Yes, you can "work out things together" but almost always one has to start. Why not you?

If you want to have a person - go and get him or her.

If you want to keep a person - .... do the same! There is no difference.

Now find out which is the predominant emotion your partner has been lacking since your marriage went into crisis. Was it passion, romance, fun, sex or just some time alone together.

Now try to fill this spot by providing or creating what has been missing. Maybe you didn't have time to make love in a while. Try to seduce your partner the way you would as if it were somebody new. Maybe it was just some true romantic feelings that were missing in the past: Set up a nice candle light dinner in a special location your partner would not expect.

No matter what it is: Show him or her that you care and try to make it special. Maybe your partner loves a particular type of food. Try to prepare it and surprise him or her with a very special romantic meal. This works almost all the time.

Yes, it is possible to save your marriage alone - then get your parter to help you and fix it together!